When I was pregnant with my first child, my friend asked me if I thought I would breastfeed. I responded, “I’ll try it and see how it goes.” So my daughter was born, and I was fortunate enough that breastfeeding came really easily to both of us.

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At that time, I hadn’t thought about how long I would breastfeed, but I knew I wouldn’t be one of those “weird” people who breastfed a kid past babyhood. I had read that some people did that in this fantastic book (seriously, if you read only one book during pregnancy, make it this one) my friend gave me, but I was sure extended breastfeeding wasn’t for me.

Little did I know that I would end up so passionate about nursing and its benefits! Five and a half years later, I have tandem nursed twice, meaning my oldest and middle nursed simultaneously and later my middle nursed at the same time as my youngest. Now, I’m breastfeeding a toddler for the third time. This means I have nursed non-stop for over five years.

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Benefits of toddler breastfeeding

Breastfeeding your toddler has many positive effects for both mom and baby! We’ll talk about just a few here:

Baby’s physical health

Did you know that the World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding “up to two years of age or beyond?” While your toddler may not nutritionally “need” breastmilk at this age, it certainly still makes a positive contribution! While breastmilk composition changes after a year postpartum, it still provides much of the fat and minerals that toddlers need to thrive.

Not only does nursing provide calories to your busy little toddler, but it also adds an extra layer of protection for her immune system. There are immune factors present in breast milk that get passed to your child during nursing.

In addition, we are learning more all the time about how the bacteria in your gut (your gut’s microbiome) is connected to your health. You know what liquid contains lots of “good” bacteria, as well as the right kind of sugars to feed them? Breast milk! So extended breastfeeding is increasing that benefit for your baby’s gut microbiome.

Baby’s mental and emotional health

Studies have shown that breastfeeding through toddlerhood has several benefits for a child’s emotional health too! One article, for example, showed turns out that extended breastfeeding is associated with stronger ability to identify their own emotions in boys (and can I add, what an important and wonderful outcome!). Another article shows that the longer a woman breastfeeds her child, the more sensitivity she shows that child even up to age eleven! This increased maternal sensitivity will positively benefit the child’s emotional health his or her whole life.happy toddler

Does this mean that breastfed toddlers are always perfect and never have tantrums? Nope! But don’t worry, I can help with that. Get my Tantrum Taming Script that tells you EXACTLY what to do and say to help you and your child get through his tantrum while actually growing his emotional intelligence!

Health benefits for mom

Have you ever worried that breastfeeding will leach the calcium from your bones, making them more brittle? Well, believe it or not, the opposite may be true! Bone recalcifies after breastfeeding, becoming stronger. In fact, studies have shown that women who breastfeed at least 33 months (this time can be spread over multiple children) have lowered risk of osteoporosis when they’re older.

Not only is toddler breastfeeding great for your little one, but lowers your health risks too! Longer breastfeeding lowers your risk of several cancers, including breast cancer and ovarian cancer.

Perhaps most impressively, extended breastfeeding protects a mother’s metabolic and heart health. A study of 300,000 Chinese women showed that the longer a woman breastfed, the lower their risk for cardiovascular disease. Another study showed that longer breastfeeding duration also lowers risk of Type 2 diabetes. With heart disease being the leading cause of death in American women, and with diabetes greatly increasing risk factors associated with cardiovascular disease, breastfeeding is not only a Public Health issue for babies and toddlers, but a Public Health issue for mothers too.

What is breastfeeding a toddler actually like?

In many ways, nursing a toddler is a whole different ball game from nursing a baby. For one thing, feeding “on demand” isn’t quite as urgent anymore. If you’re in the grocery store or some other place where nursing simply isn’t convenient, it’s okay to tell your little one that you’ll breastfeed later.

On the other hand, that toddler can be more pointed for his request to breastfeed too! He can “use his words” to ask, pull your top up or down, or any other number of behaviors to try to get what he wants. I’ve found that unless I want my top pulled down constantly, I need to wear higher necklines at this stage!

Pro tip: If you are breastfeeding a baby, come up with a name for nursing that you’re comfortable with them saying in front of people now, in case you do end up with a nursing toddler. That way, you don’t end up at a social occasion with a two year old running up to you and yelling “Boobie!” Unless you’re good with your toddler yelling boobie in public. If you’re good, I’m good.

Most of the time, nursing sessions for toddlers are short. They run up, ask to nurse for a minute or two, then hop down to continue playing. It’s actually pretty cute, like they just need to “check in” with you real quick.

The other tricky part about nursing a toddler? The acrobatics! While you’ll sometimes get the peaceful nursing session while holding him in your lap, you’re also just as likely to have him latch on while wiggling all over the place. But it at least makes things more interesting.

Pushback you might hear from others about breastfeeding your toddler

Despite the benefits of nursing a toddler, there will be some who will judge, criticize, or try to persuade you to quit. Usually, I just smile and nod, perhaps thank them for their input, and then totally ignore them. If you choose to tell them to shove it up their nose (or other orifice of their choosing), well, that’s also an option.

1. If they’re old enough to ask, they’re too old to still breastfeed.

First of all, that’s just silly. My oldest made up her own little word for breastfeeding when she was only nine months old, and now all three of my children have used this term to ask to nurse. Regardless, given that children can begin to talk at well less than a year old, and that the WHO encourages breastfeeding for two years or beyond, that idea just doesn’t make sense.

2. You’re making that child too dependent on you.

I suspect that people who say something like this haven’t been around a lot of breastfeeding toddlers. I can say from my experience with my three children that they have all had some of the least separation anxiety that I’ve ever seen in young children. While they’re happy to see me come back for them, they also rarely have issues with being left at daycare, church nursery, or with any other adults we hand them off too. They’re fine.

3. You’re just doing that for yourself at this point.

This (woefully uninformed) statement is the one that really makes my blood boil. Yes, there are some beautiful, sweet moments I’ve had with all my children when nursing them as toddlers, but there are other aspects that are just a pain. There are times when I’d love to be able to lay in bed in the morning without being pawed and begged to nurse. And have you ever had a toddler simultaneously nursing and trying to watch TV? You’ll find out the limit of your nipple’s elasticity when that happens!

Would it be easier to just wean my toddler? Probably, after the initial freak-out. But as we’ve already discussed, there’s so many benefits to him when they nurse as older babies.

Besides, a comment like this isn’t a statement about me and my child, it’s a statement about the person making the comment. They are the ones who are uncomfortable. They can be the one who adjusts, not my child.

I’m so happy to have breastfed three beautiful children into toddlerhood.

It hasn’t always been perfect, but I wouldn’t change anything. (By the way, if you want to hear more about my experiences breastfeeding a toddler and an infant simultaneously, check out this post).

Have any questions about toddler breastfeeding, or want to share your own experiences? Be sure to comment below! Until next time, Happy Parenting!