If you’re reading this post, you’re probably pregnant. Congratulations! I know you’re excited to meet your little one. But maybe you’re a little scared too. The arrival of your baby is always a big event, whether you choose to have an epidural or a natural birth.
Maybe you’re interested in an unmedicated birth because you’ve heard it’s better for your baby or that you’re less likely to end up with a c-section, but you’re scared to pull the trigger. Or perhaps you’re just like, “Nope! Pain hurts. Give me the drugs.”
Either way, I’d love to help you make your decision! I’ve had three children myself, and while all three were born vaginally, they were all very different experiences. I can tell you the pros and cons of an epidural vs a natural birth from the perspective of a mom who has been through both.
My birth stories
Before I get into all the positives and negatives of a drug-free birth, I’d like to share my own birthing experiences. Each story can help you figure out what to expect.
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Baby number one: Traditional epidural birth
Before I had my daughter, I was terrified of birth. It was literally one of my biggest fears, short of maybe death itself. In fact, that was probably a large reason why I didn’t really want to have kids!
My husband and I went to a birthing class at the local hospital. I’ll be honest, I’m not sure it was helpful. The information was really more scary than empowering. My husband said that as he looked around, he saw some women who were white as a sheet, others who were grey, and then there was me, with tears silently streaming down my cheeks (BTW, I’m sure there are several excellent birthing classes held at hospitals. This was just not one of them).
I have always been someone who has lots of Braxton-Hicks contractions, so when I woke up at 2AM, three days before my due date, with contractions, I wasn’t really alarmed yet. I remembered hearing that you couldn’t eat once you got to the hospital, so I had a big bowl of soup just in case before waking up my husband.
We had read that taking a hot shower could stop contractions if it was false labor, so I took a shower, but they still kept coming. By about 5:45 AM, we were convinced that it was go time, so we went to the hospital.
When I got to the hospital, I hung out in a chair for a while in a hospital room. I think the nurses forgot about me. By the time they came back, it had been about an hour and a half and I had decided I definitely wanted an epidural. I was fighting contractions (they hurt!), and they were getting more intense.
I was given the epidural, and immediately felt more relaxed. Interestingly, I had one place at my left groin crease where I could still feel contractions, but it was more of a slight twinge than pain. The anesthesiologist offered to deliver more drugs to numb that spot too, but I told him I actually preferred it because it let me sense what was going on still.
A few hours later, a nurse came in and said that the midwife wanted to put me on Pitocin (the drug used to induce labor). I was confused, because I really hadn’t been in labor very long, especially for a first birth, and nothing was wrong. But she checked, and it turned out that I was already fully dilated. No Pitocin for me!
Pushing was a little difficult because I couldn’t sense when I was “supposed” to push. But still, it worked out, and General Leia was born around an hour later!
Baby number two: Really fast unmediated birth!
For baby number two, I liked the idea of having a drug-free birth (especially after the recovery complications I had after giving birth to General Leia – more on that later). But at the same time, I was too scared to commit. I read a few natural birth stories, but I didn’t do any “prep” for labor.
Despite being pregnant, I was still nursing Leia. I had heard that breastfeeding near your due date could kick-start labor, so I had been nursing her as long as I could stand it in the morning (before Braxton-Hicks contractions got too intense).
But three days before my due date, I was nursing Leia, and the contractions were way more intense. I suddenly realized I was in labor for real! We had just enough time to get her dropped off to daycare and travel to the hospital.
When we got there, labor was already really intense. At that point, all the desire for an unmedicated birth went out the window. I wanted drugs like yesterday!
The problem was, it was too late! My water broke, and suddenly I was pretty much in one big constant contraction, with almost no time in-between. The anesthesiologist was trying to get an epidural needle in me, but I was in transition and was too busy writhing and screaming to stay still.
The nurse had to get my attention to get me to calm down and to tell me that I had to do this. Soon thereafter, my baby came (in front of a crowd of medical students who I have no recollection of). It was 45 minutes from when I hit the hospital door until when she was born in dramatic but safe fashion.
Baby number three: Natural birth that I prepared for
After Bella Bean came, I knew I was able to “survive” a natural birth. After all, the part that I was yelling and screaming and freaking out about was really the hardest, and I knew that a lot of the pain simply came from fear.
I knew that if I wanted to have a better birth experience, I needed to plan for it from the beginning. I joined a yoga class with an instructor certified to work with pregnant women soon after my first trimester.
In addition, I bought this book about a technique called Hypnobirthing towards the end of my second trimester. It sounds a little crazy, I know, but the premise is that the pain you experience during birth comes from fear, and that if you can allow yourself to drift into a state of deep relaxation, birth will be a calm, peaceful experience.
I read the Hypnobirthing book probably four or five times. There weren’t any courses in hypnobirthing offered in our area, so I relied on the book heavily.
In addition, the book comes with a CD (yes, a real, actual CD!) that I downloaded onto my phone. There are two guided relaxation tracks that I fell asleep to every night before my birth. (BTW: some people report not enjoying the author’s voice. I didn’t have a problem with it, but if it doesn’t work for you, here’s a different collection of guided mediation for labor and birth).
Suffice it to say, my birth experience was completely different the third time around! I was able to go through a twenty hour labor drug free, and with little pain until literally the last few minutes. In fact, I was even able to move around to get Budrow in position (his head was stuck behind my left hip), something I couldn’t have possibly done with an epidural.
Which would I choose – a natural birth or an epidural?
If I had a fourth baby (no plans there!) I would hands-down choose to go drug free again.
Does that sound crazy? I don’t blame you for thinking so. But let me share why I think unmedicated birth is the way to go:
1. Natural birth makes for easier recovery for baby
Despite what you may have heard, some of the epidural drug gets to the baby during birth. Babies whose mother have an epidural during birth are more likely to undergo respiratory distress.
In addition, newborns born under an epidural tend to be sleepier and have a harder time latching and establishing breastfeeding. This definitely happened for General Leia, as I couldn’t get her to nurse for most of her second day.
Bella Bean, on the other hand, latched within ten minutes of birth! The doctor had come in to sing Happy Birthday to her, and she latched as he was singing. Such a sweet moment.
2. Easier recovery for you after unmedicated birth
After my first baby was born, I was ravenously hungry. The hospital offered me a turkey sandwich, and you better believe I ate it!
A few hours later, when I started getting feeling back into my legs, I decided I needed to go to the bathroom. When I got up, my blood pressure dropped, and I immediately was super nauseated. I held onto that turkey sandwich because I was determined not to lose it, but it was hard.
I continued to feel awful for twenty minutes, and all I could do was lie there. I didn’t care that I had a new baby; I was just miserable.
On top of that, I had a much more difficult postpartum recovery weeks and even months after getting home from the hospital. I had a harder time walking or doing other physical activity.
3. Drug-free labor is empowering
This is the best reasons to have a natural birth, in my opinion. My third labor, where I was prepared and in charge of what happened, was an incredible experience.
As I like to say, my first two births happened to me, but I accomplished my third birth. It was the most empowering experience I have ever had.
What do I not suggest you do?
Whatever you do, please don’t go into birth thinking, “I’ll try to have a natural labor…” but not do anything to prepare. If you do that, you’re putting yourself in a bad situation. Learn pain management strategies (like in this book) and make sure you’re ready. Otherwise, the experience can be really overwhelming (like with my second child).
With that said, you can do it! Don’t be afraid to go natural, just make sure you get ready for it.
Which type of birth will you choose?
If this post has convinced you to go natural with your birth, I invite you to get access to our FREE Perfect Natural Birth toolkit. You’ll get a birth plan template, tips I’ve never seen anywhere else to keep you calm and relaxed, birthing mantras, and more!
Whichever way you go, or even if things don’t go as planned in your birthing experience, you still get to see your new baby at the end. That’s the most important thing!
I’d love to hear more from you! Let me know what you think is the best choice for your birth experience in the comments below!